This past week I went to my student affairs advisor professional conference near Disneyland. It was just what I needed. I got the chance to room with some girl friends, catch up on work and being married. Both nights, I stayed up late talking about when do you make the life changing discussion to have kids and change jobs. I told Matthias, men have poker, women deep talks. Each time someone asked how I was doing, all I could do was take a deep breathe and say, â€œI am four weeks away from finishing my grad programâ€.
I came to the conference with my mind heavy, my heart racing and all I wanted to do was check things off my to-do list. On the second day of the conference, the conference planning committee started the day off with a stress releasing workshop. This amazing peaceful woman led us through mediation and would repeat, â€œAll you have is this moment this breatheâ€. By the time the mediation was over, tears were running down my face. I realized that I cannot control next week or even a year from now. Why worrying about when to have kids or finishing everything I have to do. It will not help me feel less overwhelmed.
Since then, I have started to say her mantra, â€œAll you have is this moment this breatheâ€ each time my heart starts to race. Iâ€™ve also being keeping in my mind this amazing advice I read in last monthâ€™s Real Simple Magazine, â€œYou can have all you want just not at the same timeâ€