Cafe Victoria

Reading: Still reading “Fly Away Home” by Jennifer Weiner. Been spending more time writing before going to bed.
Watching: “The Good Wife” and “Glee”, love it!
Sam update: Sam is crawling!! I just realized it has been over a month since I updated. The best part is when I pick him up at day care, he sees me and crawls right to me!
Thankful for: my job at Cañada College, hands down! It gives me the opportunity to do so much else in my life.
Looking forward to: Christmas decorations, Christmas lights, and Holiday parties

Since moving from Marin, I’ve realized how much I miss my Mom’s Group at the Parent Center. It was so helpful for me to have a place to go weekly where I could share what has been happening with Sam and learn new things I should be paying attention too. Now, living in Redwood City, and back working full time, finding the Mom’s group..not as easy. So I’ve been thinking of putting out the request to the moms at Sam’s day care. I keep thinking I could sign up to some club around here but I feel like I have more of a connection with the moms who children are going to the same place as me.  I’m trying to decide between starting a email list, then a one night a month get together. There is a parent meeting next week, so I’m going to throw out the idea there. You  know that old saying, “if you don’t schedule it in, it won’t happen”. I will say, having fellow moms on Facebook is a huge help. It’s nice being able to send a question out. I’m just realizing that all my mom’s on Facebook are kind of far away. Sometimes you need that local mom too. I’ll keep you posted how it goes.

Do you accept your students friend request? Often a easy question for some of us and not so easy for others. My advice for new advisors has always been “accept your students’ friend request after they have moved on, graduated, or transferred”. A week ago, I started using my professional Facebook page, separate from my personal one, so that I could have access to my student government’s Facebook site. I also wanted to try out what it would be like having my current students as friends on Facebook.
So far, here is what I have learned:
-If you accept one student’s request, you kind of have to accept all of them.
-You have to watch how much you read into what they post.
-Try to focus on the status updates that are related to student government, clubs, and student life.
-Be careful how much you feel responsible for what you do see on Facebook. As I can tell, it is not part of our job to keep track of our students behavior on Facebook. The only time I see it relevant is when the behavior or comment is about something or someone in student government, or club, and it can effect the team dynamic.
-Don’t expect your students or make it a rule they have to be friends with everyone in student government on their personal Facebook page. In the working world, we are not expected to have all our co-workers as friends on our Facebook page.